Monday, October 14, 2013

Here We Go Again

I decided to do it.... I signed up for another dating service.  I know, I said I wasn't going to do it again, but there's apparently a new one out there that's different than all the rest.  This one is called HowAboutWe..., and it's kind of set up by having you "announce" what kind of date you want to go on ("How about we....go on a date and get dinner and do something fun and exciting and decide if we want to go on a second date?"), and then you wait to see if anyone takes you up on it.  That's the grab.  In the meantime, you fill in all of the requisite profile information which is exactly like every other dating site.  Why did I do this again?

It's amazing to me how many women just want to get together to either have coffee or have drinks.  That's what the majority of the profiles I checked out say.  Then there are the one's who want to go kayaking, or boating, or surfing, or big game hunting, or swing across cliffs on a trapeze, or some crazy, exotic adventure thing that I have never done in my life nor would I want to do.  Then there are the ones who want to meet up at some hip bar or hangout that I guess I'm expected to know about somewhere in DC, where I never go, to do things I would never do.  These are the most interesting profiles to look at, featuring women of varying unnatural hair colors with piercings all over their faces and tattoos on their arms, legs, necks, and backs.  No thanks.

Very few of the profiles I looked at mention anything about faith, though I do find it odd that they differentiate between "Christian" and "Catholic".  Aren't Catholics Christians?  Because faith is so important to me, I'm not so sure I'm going to have very much luck on this site.

In December it will have been a year since I last went on a date.  I've determined that I'm just too picky to want to date just anyone, and I tend to scoff at any opportunity that presents itself to go on a date.  In fact, I'm really not sure what drove me to sign up for another dating service, since I'm much happier lately not thinking about it.  I have enough stress in my life...Why add to it by dating?  I'm sure there are a lot of women out there that would be a great match for me, but I feel very little passion or motivation to really look for them.  I have an idea in my head of who I'm looking for, but I really don't know for sure that's going to fit my reality.  I'd like to find a Christ-follower in their late 30s-early 40s that may not wish to have anymore kids, but who doesn't mind a guy who has a child.  But that doesn't sound like it's going to happen, at least on my time table.  God has a time table for me, and He is teaching me patience.

So why join a dating service?  I don't know.  I guess I like the misery.  Maybe I'll get lucky?  Maybe God really does have someone out there waiting for me?  It would sure be easier if that someone was someone I already know.  Being an introvert makes it so hard to meet someone new.  I really hate it.  Oh, well.  Let's see how this goes.  You can bet I'll report it here if it goes well.

Have a great day, everyone!


  1. I found your blog by hapstance when I made a comment on Dino's pizza after following a google thread. Anyway, I started to read your blog and when I came across this post on online dating, I had to laugh and wanted to encourage you. I, too, am an introvert and I, too, twice got on a dating site. One was called Christian Mingle, which didn't seem very Christian at all. Anyway, I got so overwhelmed last time, I just took down my profile. BTW, I never did go on a date. Seems people are just shady about what they want or don't want. Any how, just push your self and keep trying. You are young and God has someone for you. In the meantime, He is teaching you to be content. Part of the walk is learning to be content even when there is an area of our life that has a big giant hole in it. But as my friends tell me, God isn't going to FedEx my next great love to my front door! So I admire your courage and will check in to see how your adventure goes. God bless and good luck!

    1. Thank you, Lori. I appreciate you kind and encouraging words. I did try Christian Mingle, too, and I actually went on a few dates, but I was burned once, too. I'm sorry your experience wasn't great. I trust that God will bring someone new into my life. Thank you! Thanks for reading!