Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Kiss Me LIke A Stranger

I try to stay away from controversial topics on this blog.  It's not that I don't feel strongly about subjects that seem to divide the populace of this great country.  I just choose to stay away from these subjects on this blog.  For example, I don't believe in sex outside of a marriage relationship.  It tends to be accepted in today's "anything goes" culture, but, for me, it ain't right.  I've been accused of being too old-fashioned, but I believe in tradition.  I'm a Bible-believing Christ-follower.  So I'm not going to pull any punches with today's controversial topic:  kissing.  What?  Kissing isn't controversial?  I don't know about that....

I can't remember what it felt like to kiss my wife.  It has been ten years since her death, and I was thinking about it.  It bothers me that I can't remember.  I remember kissing the last woman I dated seriously.  She loved to kiss.  We would spend hours making out.  Since neither of us believed in sex outside of a marriage relationship, that's as intimate as we got.  But with my wife, I can't remember how she kissed!  I know we enjoyed kissing, though.

I just watched a short film about kissing.  The director asked several pairs of attractive models who had never met each other to kiss.  There wasn't any background information on the models/actors in the film, but I assume none of them are married.  When they were asked to kiss, it was interesting to see how they handled their instructions.  In every case, the couples appeared to be kind of shy about it, and a few were embarrassed.  One woman seemed to get very into it, and almost got too carried away.  Most seemed to loosen up once they started to kiss, but it was interesting to see them hesitate before that.  A few really got quite passionate.  A few only kissed once.  It was an interesting exercise.  I wish that they had gotten more "mature" couples.  They were pretty much all young and beautiful, which I guess was the director's purpose for doing this film.  But I found it fascinating.

If I had been asked to kiss a stranger, I'm not sure I could do it.  Several years ago, I went to a conference for work.  At the opening meeting, we were asked to go around the room and introduce ourselves to someone we didn't know.  I was approached by Dina, a woman I didn't know at the time.  She asked me my name, and I replied, "Eric."  Her brow furrowed, and she looked confused, then leaned close and pointed at her cheek.  I had no idea what she was doing, but then I though she wanted me to give her a kiss on the cheek.  I started to lean in, then reality smacked me in the face and I figured out she couldn't hear me, and was pointing at her ear, not her cheek!  I quickly repeated, "Eric," and I thanked God that I hadn't made a fool of myself and kissed her!  Ironically, she later became my boss several years later.  To this day, she doesn't know how close I came to creating an awkward situation.  There is no place in an office for affection of any kind.

Then there's Karen, an old friend of my wife's.  She insists on greeting me with a kiss every time we get together.  I always turn my cheek to her, but her lips make their way to mine regardless of how far I've turned my head.  It's completely awkward, since I know she really doesn't like to kiss.  It's as uncomfortably unromantic as it gets.

So, could you kiss a stranger?  I'm not talking about a little peck.  I'm talking about a deep, passionate, kiss and embrace that makes you weak in the knees.  I'd like to give it a shot.  I mean, it has been over six years since my last kiss like that.  I think I'm way overdue.

Have a great evening, everyone!


  1. Wow, what a topic, blog post, and question! Go for it, why don't you? lol

    Hmm. Well, since I'm married, there's all kinds of baggage with that question. One, I don't think my husband would like it. Two, I'm afraid I might like it! No, just kidding. I think I would feel too guilty.

    So, let's take out the variable of being married. Hmm. I honestly don't know. If it was just a random stranger, I think I would feel really weird about it. Now if it was some guy that I had found attractive, interesting and fun to talk to (but I had just met him that night, so that still qualifies as a stranger, right?) then yes, I sure as heck could!

    But random, completely random and out of the blue? Makes me feel kind of skeevy to think about it.

    ps- apparently skeevy isn't a word. it should be!

    1. Definitely a controversial topic! :-)

    2. And I'm going to say, in your scenario, the guy would no longer be a stranger after you've spent some time talking. In the film, the couples had literally just met. They didn't even know each other's names. I think that's harder.

  2. Definitely harder! Although, having just seen the video you were referring to, no wonder it makes you want to kiss someone! I think it would have that effect on most people me included! ;)