As a single guy always on the hunt for prospective matches, I'm very conscious of the ring finger on the left hand of women who catch my eye. I know, that makes me sound like a stalker or something, but, really, all it means is that I'm desperate. Just kidding. Let's try this again...
I tend to observe that some people I meet, though married, don't always wear a ring. I find this mystifying. When I was married, I was honored to wear the ring my wife gave me. It was important. It signified our commitment to each other, and it was a symbol of our love. Now, I can understand if, say, a ring was lost, or maybe one outgrew the ring and it no longer fits. But I find it surprising that there are as many as there are who only sometimes wear their rings, or not at all.
I recently attended a series of meetings at work and, during a slow moment, I scanned the hands of my colleagues and was amazed by how many didn't wear rings when I know they are married. One married couple, both of whom work in the organization, only occasionally wear their rings. I hate to think people actually do this, but I'm sure there are some who are actively trying to cheat on their spouse, and not wearing a ring allows them to get away with it. Now, I'm not asking my colleagues about why they might not be wearing their rings, but I do wonder.
I would never pursue a married woman. It isn't right, ethically, morally, or Biblically. Having said that, the wedding ring is my indicator as to whether a woman is married. If she's not wearing a ring, my assumption is she may be available. Let me also mention, though, that I'm still as introverted as they come, and to approach a single woman with the intent of asking her out, or even showing my interest, is not something I can easily do. It's much easier if there is a common friend or acquaintance who can introduce us to each other. But when one isn't available, or if we're not at a social event, this is much harder to do. For example, let's say I'm grocery shopping at, say, Wegman's in Columbia. I might be amazed at the number of single women shopping there on a Tuesday evening, if I were to use the lack of wedding rings as an indicator of their singleness. If I leaned a bit more toward the extrovertedness scale, I might actually have the nerve to do a little casual flirting. I might then very well embarrass myself and never be able to shop there again. OR, maybe I might just hit it off with some incredibly nice, somewhat attractive single woman, which could lead to a date and maybe even a relationship. You never know. For the record, though, I do not go to the grocery store to pick up women, even though I saw the Fonz take Richie Cunningham to the grocery store for that very reason once.
With that, have a great evening, everyone. Stay safe out there tomorrow.