I read a blog post this morning entitled "Why Smart Men Make Better Partners" (http://bigthink.com/paul-ratner/why-smart-men-make-better-partners). If you're interested to find out what it's all about, I'll wait while you read it. Go ahead.
So, the bottom line is that, according to this Finnish study, intelligent people make better partners. My experience tells me that there may be some truth to this, but I also think there are many factors that contribute to it, not just intelligence. Besides, there are other ways to interpret intelligence, as well, including wisdom, common sense, and specialized knowledge.
My wife and are/were intelligent people. We both took an IQ test a number of years ago, the widely accepted way of measuring intelligence, and both of us came out well above average. Whether that was a, or the, contributing factor for wooing my wife is only something she could tell me, and she's no longer with us so I can't ask her. But I imagine physical looks were a factor, as was personality, common interests, and the fact we both are Christ-followers. I'm sure my car wasn't a factor, and neither was my income, both of which were entirely ordinary at the time we met, and were not things that would have interested her. I think we were both just thankful we had found and rescued each other away from the dating world.
I believe that every relationship is unique. There are any number of factors involved in creating attraction between two people, including chemistry, so intelligence all by itself is hardly a convincing attribute. But if it helps, and it's something that can be gleaned through meeting someone on a date, then more power to it. But my hope is that someone will see something even deeper, perhaps down into my heart and soul, that will allow them to see the real me, and they can make their decision on whether they like me based on the complete me, rather than relying on my four-door sedan to tell them I'm a Gemini and I like long walks on the beach.
Have a great evening, everyone.
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