I watch a lot of TV, probably more than I should. There are certain shows that I find very entertaining, and some that I enjoy watching with my daughter, who is nine. I try to stick with family-friendly shows, overall, but there are a few that I wouldn't want my daughter to watch, and don't let her. 90% of what I watch is pre-recorded on our Tivo. The only live TV is generally sporting events, usually featuring my favorite teams, such as the Steelers, Pirates, Penguins, or Terrapins (and don't even get me started on the Steelers fifth loss of the season today at the hands of the Oakland Raiders. Ugh.).
One show I've been watching this season is The Blacklist, starring the always entertaining and creepy James Spader, who plays a crime boss working with the FBI, and Megan Boone, a Rachael Ray lookalike who is rapidly growing on me, as an FBI agent named Liz. This is one of those shows that I won't let me daughter watch, as the violence is pretty severe. However, the characters are very compelling, and I'm finding the twists and turns that are introduced each week are twisting and turning my stomach, a sure sign that the show is affecting me (in an entertaining way).
I don't want to give away too much, as I highly recommend that you check it out, but one of the most compelling continuing story lines is the relationship between Liz and her husband. In the first episode, thanks to a hint from Spader's character, she finds out that he's got a whole bunch of secrets and possibly a secret life in the form of a hidden stash of passports, other identities, a gun, and money, all hidden underneath the kitchen floorboards. The interactions between them are all the more intriguing knowing she knows he's got this hidden life, and he doesn't know it.
This story line actually made me think about their relationship as husband and wife, and the world-view of how their relationship is looked at versus what a Christ-centered relationship should be. The first thing is the fact that they obviously keep secrets from each other. Since we're still finding out about them, we really don't know that much, except that he's involved in some potentially sinister stuff that she knew nothing about, and the fact that she, as an FBI agent, has secrets she's not allowed to share with him. Another issue that they seem to be dealing with is that they are trying to adopt a child. Either she is not able to have children, or he, is not clear. But it's also become clear that her job isn't necessarily conducive to them having a child. He seems to be really making an effort, and either she isn't, or she recognizes that it may not be a good idea. Anyway, they're not talking about it. He's trying to get her to open up, but she's at the point where she really doesn't know if she can even trust him anymore.
What made me think about all this is the fact that they would have any secrets to begin with. I remember when my wife and I got married, we had no secrets between us, and if we had tried to keep any, the other would have figured out that there was a secret being kept from me/her. That's how a marriage should be. There's no reason to keep secrets from each other. "The two shall become one." In this age of divorce, it might be more realistic, unfortunately, for a couple to keep secrets from each other. This is what I refer to as the world-view. The Christ-centered marriage, filled with trust, is now unrealistic because it's not as common. Isn't that sad?
I may be exaggerating a bit, and maybe it isn't as unrealistic as it appears, but at least on TV, it's certainly more common for couples to hide stuff from each other. I really can't imagine keeping secrets from my wife, though, and I believe that is the way God intended.
All right, it's bedtime. Have a great week, everyone.