A friend of mine sent me an invitation to a Christian Single's event taking place this weekend, and I panicked. If there is one thing that I absolutely dread, it's a Christian singles group. I hate to make generalities about the people in these groups, but it's always the same: desperate people looking desperately for a date. This is very different from a young adults group. At least with young adults, it's not expected that you be married by a certain age, and there are usually a lot of wonderful people worth meeting. With the dreaded "singles group", it's generally made up of a bunch of people that you would expect to be married by the time they hit their 30s or 40s, and the assumption is something must be wrong with them if they're not. I'm not saying there is something wrong with them. They could be wonderful people. This is just a generality, resulting from my own experience. Anyway, after seeing the invitation, I went screaming the other way.
I recall a picnic that Teresa invited me to at her church. It was for the singles group. Teresa thought it might be a fun thing for us to do on a nice Sunday afternoon. We had only been dating a few weeks. When we arrived, one of Teresa's friends, who didn't know that Teresa and I were dating, ran over to her and suggested that she meet one of the single guys who was there for the picnic. It was a very uncomfortable situation. Teresa politely declined and whispered to her friend that she and I were there together, and things were going pretty well. The friend didn't quite understand, so Teresa had to spell it out a little more clearly. We left soon after we arrived, pleased that we had each other and didn't have to go through the awkwardness of the meeting process.
I guess it isn't nice to look down on this breed of singleness. It may or may not be their fault that they're still single. I just know that these single groups are not for me. I'll take my chances on finding someone on my own, without having to resort to the mass meet-and-greets. They just aren't any fun.